Category Archives: Love & Relationships

The Solace of Solitude

I prefer the solace of solitude over you.
I’m not broken, don’t try to fix me.
It’s not you, it’s me.

The biggest rock won’t change me.
Your tender heart won’t change me.
Promises of a future won’t change me.

I prefer the solace of solitude over you.
I was a happy child, I still am happy.
It’s not you, it’s me.

Your relentless attention won’t change me.
The comfort of your arms won’t change me.
Memories of our past won’t change me.

I prefer the solace of solitude over you.
I got my heart broken, and broke several.
I’m not broken, don’t try to fix me.

I prefer the solace of solitude over you.
I won’t commit, I’m not ashamed.

I prefer the solace of solitude.


The goddess in you

Ladies, ladies, ladies!

The following blog post was inspired by a few conversations I’ve recently had with some of my friends.

When women go out on a date and have a good time their minds tend to go on over speed. They start overthinking and biting their nails BUT they ask all the wrong questions. It’s always about if he is interested in her? did she act in a way he might have not liked? Does he like her?

Now please pay attention to what I’m about to say and keep in mind I’m not trying to flatter you because I don’t have a reason to do so. I’m not trying to get into your pants or something.

Are you ready?

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How not to lose yourself in a relationship

Losing someone you love is painful, but the most painful thing to endure in life, is when you lose yourself while in the process of loving someone.


There’s something very euphoric about the start of a new relationship, something almost magical. You know what I’m talking about. The butterflies in your stomach, feeling your eyes shine as you gaze into your partner’s eyes, the endless hours of talking, that magical first kiss. These feelings are ones that you would like to last forever. It becomes easy to want to cocoon yourself in a world made for just the two of you.

Somewhere along the line, everything starts to revolve around your partner and without realizing it you’re always trying to find ways to make your partner happy.

Stop. Pause. Take a step back.

It is very easy to lose yourself while loving someone else. You don’t realize it happening because it happens gradually starting off with small sacrifices and compromises. How many friends have you heard say after a break up that they no longer recognized themselves?  That usually is the case. You don’t realize that you lost sight of who you are, of who your partner fell in love with, until after the relationship ends.

Having discussed this topic with several friends who at some point in their lives have lost themselves in a relationship, I find that these tips help you avoid losing yourself:

1. Spend time with friends/family: While you may feel like spending all your free time with your new found love, make a point to spend time with your friends without your partner. Your friends may like your partner and nothing beats your friends getting along with your beau, but remember your friends interact with you differently when your partner tags along, and it’s less intimate for them.  Your friends were there before your Mr. or Miss. Wonderful appeared into your life.  Also, your friends may red flag you when they see warning signs that you’re too blind to see. Do not flake last minute just so you could spend time with your significant other.

2. It’s alright to have different hobbies or interests:  You don’t have to stop watching Star Wars just because your partner doesn’t enjoy doing so. Your hobbies are what make you unique, gives you confidence, makes you happy, and makes you attractive. Enjoying separate hobbies also provides you with something to talk about.  So if you enjoy hiking, and he enjoys tennis, keep doing it. Identify the hobbies or interests that you do not share and continue enjoying them with your friends or on your own.

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